Wednesday, January 27, 2016

Random thoughts on Marriage Ramifications

It's interesting...for most women, getting married means changing one's title from "Miss" to "Mrs." Oh, sure, there's also the "Ms." option, but it's always given in addition to "Miss" and "Mrs.," thus making you state your political and/or social theory leanings instead of your marital status. What a mess. But for those of us with PhDs, MDs, DVMs, etc., it's not an issue. Before my marriage I was Dr. Hyde. Now I'm Dr. Hyde-Rolland. My title has not changed. (I won't be offended if someone calls me Mrs., but it's not the correct title for me).

Moral of the story: the only way to get out of stating your marital status and or social leanings in your title if you are a woman is to get a doctoral level degree. Men just have to be born, but that's society for you.

Dr. and Mr. Rolland

And let's not get started on the whole name change thing...I know people feel strongly both ways. I used to feel strongly about not changing my name. Now I don't care so much one way or the other, but I have a career that has been built under Hyde. It would be difficult to switch to Rolland entirely, as I have published under Hyde, and my references would have no idea who Sam Rolland is, etc. So I went for the "meh" solution of hyphenating. I'll use Hyde professionally and Rolland socially. By hyphenating I cover my bases. It's not a perfect solution, but between my professional life and my desire to have one name for our family it's the best I've been able to do.

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  1. I was going to ask what you would be using as your last name, since I generally try to call people whatever they prefer. And yes, the whole thing is confusing, and no, I really don't care what anyone picks as long as they're willing to tell me and not make me guess.

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    1. Legally it's Hyde-Rolland, socially just Rolland. But that's taking some getting used to. I had to go back to HR and change all my paperwork because I'd signed everything as "Hyde" just out of habit.

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